Asking for help is ok

How did mothers ever do it? A grandmother I met recently said ‘I wish I’d had support from someone like you when I had her’ while pointing at her daughter holding her grandchild. And from the bottom of my heart I said ‘I wish I’d had support from someone like me when I had my first child’.

How did they manage it, those mothers who came before us? Did they learn breastfeeding instinctively? By seeing nothing but breastfed babies? That is probably part of the explanation. But only a part.

Because almost every culture on this planet allows women a period of confinement after birth. A period where she can rest, take care of her baby and, very importantly, has the help of other women. To teach, show and support her in breastfeeding and taking care of the lovely demanding new baby.

Not only do we as Westerners have cut down on that confinement period, we’ve also over the last decades lost a lot of knowledge about breastfeeding. So we need external help. And time, and patience. Here is a lovely article to support that view: Secrets of breastfeeding from global moms

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Breastfeeding the Concorde-way: a manual

At last: a manual for the Concorde-way of latching on. Made by a friend who designs lovely things with her colleague:

The concorde method is a way to help mothers and babies breastfeed comfortably with a tonguetie, before and/or after treatment. And it is a way to help those babies practice their tongues at breast in order to make breastfeeding enjoyable for both.

It is also a way to breastfeed that many more mothers and colleagues adopt since it is comfortable to use.

This manual has been tested in daily practice. Feel free to download it, to print it if you wish, and to share it. If you have any questions or want to share experiences with the method please do contact me. It is still a work in progress.Myrte_Concorde-manualK_20122016

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Concorde: werk in uitvoering.

A way to breastfeed I’ve called ‘Concorde’ offers a baby the chance to experience and explore why and how drinking at breast is more effective when the lower jaw is well placed under the areola. And the mother can assist her baby in this exploration while she is usually breastfeeding in more comfort. This is especially the case when a tonguetie and or receding chin and similar issues make breastfeeding difficult for both mother and child.

A manual is just an abstract. It is difficult to catch in words what is in reality a way in which mother and child work together in order to achieve comfortable and effective breastfeeding.

This is not a new way to breastfeed. And ‘concorde’ is an odd name for what is effectively a medieval way to breastfeed.

This is what we now call ‘madonna’hold: a baby that is almost horizontal in mothers arms, with no support to the breast at all.

That is quite different from the way the medieval madonna lactans were depicted: their babies are sitting almost upright on their mothers lap, and mom supports the breast actively. She does this in a way we were taught not to do: almost as if she is holding a sigaret. The emphasis of the support however is at the lower jaw of the baby. And the emphasis on the support for the baby appears to be in the lower back, not behind the head.

This is what is offered in the concorde way of breastfeeding. In another post a more elaborate manual will be shared.




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Een nieuwe echte regeldag.

Zullen we de oude regeldagen vervangen door een nieuwe? Een die echt gaat over inregelen van melkproductie?

Het begrip regeldagen is ingeburgerd maar lijkt niet helemaal te kloppen. lees verder

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Even opletten bij borstvergroting

Als een borstvergroting via de tepel(hof) is aangebracht heeft dat mogelijk wel serieuze gevolgen voor het geven van borstvoeding.
Voor alle verloskundigen, obstetrie verpleegkundigen en kraamverzorgenden een aandachtspunt. En voor plastisch chirurgen natuurlijk zeker.
Een borstvergroting heeft over het algemeen nauwelijks invloed op borstvoeding geven en melkproductie.
Maar dat ligt anders als:

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It’s all in the details: new study does NOT show that ‘crying it out’ does no harm.

Solid research has been published into the effect of sleeptraining on babies. Solid, because it is a well designed study in which not only the effect on sleep itself was measured but also on stress in both mother and child (cortisol) and bonding. And the outcomes do show that the sleepinterventions did not increased measurable stress in the baby, did not disrupt bonding and had possible positive effects for both mother and child.

So far the abstract. But. Of course there is a but. The devil is in the details. lees verder

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En trouwens, waarom noemen we bevallingsverlof ‘vrij’?

Als een weekje vrij nemen en dat vullen met werkklussen geen vakantie is, hoe zit het dan met ons bevallingsverlof? Verlof… dat klinkt ook als vrij. Als uitrusten, bijkomen.
En daar hoort de verwachting bij dat je er na je verlof weer volop tegenaan kunt met je werk. Wat vaak niet bepaald de realiteit is. lees verder

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It’s nice but why do you call it a vacation?

A week off sounds great. And my site and my facebook mention a week of holiday, a vacation. It does feel like that. Until a colleague I meet in an impromtu meeting looks at me and says ‘You did not take a week off, you reserved a week for other work than individual clients!’

Good point. I took a week ‘off’ to do work which requires uninterrupted time. lees verder

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May I?

Give me a moment on my soapbox?
Recently I’ve heard several times that finding good info on formula is so hard to get. And that that is caused by the breastfeeding’people’ because they prevent parents being educated on formula. And prevent healthcare professionals to be educated on the subject. Recently I saw an article claiming that the higher rate of obesity in formula fed babies is caused by the emphasis on breastfeeding.
Allow me to clarify a few things. lees verder

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Waarom en wanneer gaan de hakken in het zand?

Why does information on the healtheffects of (not) breastfeeding often creates so much resistance and such emotional responses?

Increasingly I wonder why after all these years of information on the healtheffects and advantages of breastfeeding the message just does not seem to take hold. The content is clear and is passed on by trustworthy and well-meaning persons and institutions. But the intended public seems to be hardly welcoming the information.

At a conference about food in Berlin this week I had an interesting epiphany in what is possibly going on. lees verder

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